Ah, Valentine’s Day, ay? A lot of people on my social media were writing love letters to their significant others and how much they appreciate their presence in their lives. Which of course is lovely and it is great that people have so much love for another human being, but I do not think I will ever be able to fully relate – until I have a child.
Do not get me wrong, I had a wonderful Valentine’s Day full of laughter and love. I had drinks at No.65 & King with A and then we proceeded to have a very vegan and candlelit dinner at Farmacy. It was nice to celebrate Valentine’s Day seeing as I have not done so for over two years. Nevertheless, that does not mean I am overwhelmed by the love I have for the people around me. I am appreciative of it, but not overwhelmed.
What I am overwhelmed by is the love I feel for myself. And at the end of the day your relationship with yourself is the most important thing in the world because you will literally spend the rest of your life with you. The importance of nurturing your relationship with yourself is vital to a comfortable and fulfilled life. I am incredibly happy with myself and I know I can always count on me to have my own back. If one part of me is slacking or is going through a tough time, another part of me picks the pieces up and gets shit done. And that is something I have only ever been able to rely on myself for, and that is why I love me. I take care of me in a way that only I can – I know what I need to feel happy. If that is a good read at a small café, then I will do that. If that is a lengthy shopping spree with a glass of champagne to top it off, then I will do that. If that is a crazy night out with my girlfriends, then I will do that. If that is to lay in bed all day and order food delivery after food delivery, then I will do that.
What it comes down to is ultimately a commitment to take care of your soul and your mind. I have realised after years and years of putting my happiness in the hands of other people that at the end of the day, the only person who can make me truly happy is me – the only person who will never ever leave, disappoint, cheat, be mean, put me down or misunderstand me. And I think once you come to that realisation you will have a much better relationship to yourself as well as the people around you. It helps filter which choices to make in life and in which people to you keep around you.
So thank you Julia for being you, for always having my back, for being hard working, for making me laugh (I literally find myself hilarious) and for being a kind and considerate human being. I love you!